Today, in keeping with my intent to give males equal time, my guest is Jeff Ward. Welcome to Once Upon A Word, Jeff. To begin our chat, will you tell us a little about yourself?
Thank you
for having me Linda. I am a mid-50’s Software Engineer working in the Banking industry. I
live in Murfreesboro which is geographically the center of Tennessee. I remain in love with the wife of my youth, Carol. Together we have three
wonderful children. I’m father of
three, grandfather of 5 with another due any day now. I’m very conservative politically, pseudo-Jewish religiously.
You've
condensed a lot of information in a few words. I need a man like you to write
my book blurbs. And speaking of that, what kinds of books do you read?
Oh wow, books that would bore you to death, or make your eyes glaze over. My
reading is about 98% non-fiction. One recent book is “Programming Erlang” by
Armstrong. It was written by the architect of a computer language used by
Erickson since the mid-80s and is regaining popularity. Not stuff to discuss at
a party however. Outside the realm of my profession you might find a few
interesting. “The Dark Side of Christian History” by Helen Ellerbe chronicles the history of Christianity
in an unflattering but tragically realistic way. “Paul and Jesus” by
James D. Tabor was the best illustration of the tension that exists between the
philosophy of Jesus and the philosophy and world view of Paul of Tarsus. I
absolutely love Bart Ehrman though he reaches agnostic conclusions that I do
not. I love the Judy Woods book “9/11 – Where Did The Towers Go?” It puts a
scientific eye to 9/11 that makes the 9/11 commission look completely lame. As you might notice, most of these
books are topics that you could talk about at a party...and get kicked out of
the party. I want people to like me, but I’m attracted to literature that tends
to make people angry...why is that? Oh wait, round them all off with a book
that changed my life, “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale
Carnegie. My mother says that book was like a “charm school” for me. God bless
her, she knows I sure needed one. Now there’s how I avoid getting kicked out of
the party!
I’m sure
notably missing here is any kind of fiction. In my youth, I read the Hardy Boys Series, probably 30 of them. I then
moved to the J.R.R. Tolkein “Lord of the Rings” series. After “growing up”, I sort of disconnected with reading
fiction. You might be pleased to know that I recently reconnected with reading
for pleasure with “This Time Forever” by none other than Linda Swift. I lost
almost an entire night’s sleep because I couldn’t put it down.
Thank
you, Jeff. You learned well from Dale Carnegie! Most of the books you
mentioned, including mine, appear to be long. Are lengthy books your
preference?
For
non-fiction, I prefer lengthy and complete if it’s organized well. I don’t
always read professional books cover-to-cover. I sometimes spot-read, put a
summary of the book in my head, then shelve it until I need the specifics.
I think I
love a short effective book. “War Is A Racket” by Major General Smedley Butler
immediately comes to mind. It’s a
tiny little book, but it leaves me crying every time I read it.
My
brother frequently alludes to concepts in Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand which
intrigue me. However, I picked up a copy and opened it. The thickness and tiny
print left me thinking, “Am I going to live long enough to read this? How many books am I in the middle of
right now? How important is this...really?”
Short books are awesome!!
I get
your drift. You can almost be assured of surviving long enough to finish the
short ones. I wonder what criteria, other than length, contributes to selecting books you buy?
The term
“out-of-the-box” comes to mind. The thinking that has been prescribed for us is
a race to the middle of the herd. In that very middle is where almost
everything is a lie or a distortion. I have a world view that there is a such
thing as absolute truth. I’m attracted to those who see truths and express them
effectively.
In
fiction, I like themes that make me feel. This Time Forever for example made me
grieve for the abused slave-girl
and put me in touch with her heartbreak. It made me feel anger for those who
create and perpetuate war. And oh yes, the love. Love always works.
Shades of Dale Carnegie
again. And I'd love to spend the rest of our chat discussing my story with you
but I'll resist the temptation. That book, and most of my others, are available
as print or e-books. Which do you prefer to read?
Print. I just can’t learn to like the e-books. After facing a computer screen for 8 hours a day, that’s not a way to relax and read a book. Give me a real book, perhaps a highlighter, and a cup of coffee.
Dare I say here online that my favorite is print also? I imagine you have definite opinions about what pleases or annoys you in books. Would you care to share that with us?
Print. I just can’t learn to like the e-books. After facing a computer screen for 8 hours a day, that’s not a way to relax and read a book. Give me a real book, perhaps a highlighter, and a cup of coffee.
Dare I say here online that my favorite is print also? I imagine you have definite opinions about what pleases or annoys you in books. Would you care to share that with us?
I don’t
like it when people do things in books and particularly drama that people would
not normally do. It’s like the writers are trying to influence human behavior,
not illustrate it. They want to
debase human behavior instead of glorify the good. Sitcom writers seem to love
having elderly characters that are foul-mouthed and crude. The dialog all seems
phony and unrealistic with an agenda of debauchery. Didn’t literature used to
be something that helped build civilization? Am I crazy to think it should
build what’s good and decent instead of tear it down?
Very
well said, Jeff. I think you may have pointed out the reason I watch so little
TV. Everything on screen seems so exaggerated. Do you ever give a print book a
second read just because you like it?
Oh yeah,
I’ve got my “Paul and Jesus” book out now. Well, I’m not really re-reading
cover-to-cover. I’m skimming through my highlights from my first read. Looking
at my notes in the margins. Try that in a e-book, right?
I've
had a Kindle for several years and I'm still trying to turn its pages! Old
habits die hard. Since your reading preference is print, do you spend any time online visiting websites or Facebook pages?
Yes, I
do. Surprising how many you can
send a “friend” request and they will friend you back. For me, Robert Eisenman
was one such find. His research has had a huge impact on the Dead Sea Scrolls
findings and its relevance to ancient Christianity. Do I want to know what
crosses this guy’s mind on a daily basis? Oh heck yeah! Dr. James Tabor is
another.
Some web
sites are a tremendous wealth of information. For example, Douglas Del Tondo,
author of “Jesus Words Only” has a web site that is chocked-full of wonderful
information that you can’t get anywhere else I know of. Eric Jon Phelps, author
of Vatican Assassins has a wealth of information, though his writing style is erratic and not very well documented.
Do you
often read blogs such as this? If so, do you leave comments?
Well
Linda, you’re talking now about the stuff that gets me in trouble. You know, a
soapbox can be an expensive thing, and seldom a profitable one. It depends a
lot on my mood which tends to run cycles. I try to be a gracious guest of
someone else’s blog or Facebook page. I might temper my statements to what you
would actually say standing in their living room. I’m more outspoken in my
living room...my own Facebook page.
A well-advised word of caution. How do
you find the books you choose?
Almost
always Amazon search relating to a topic. On fiction, it’s almost always going
to be a personal recommendation.
Have you ever written an Amazon
review of a book you have read?
Yes, I
have. Several. As a matter of fact, you just might stumble across a review of This
Time Forever out there. It wasn’t just a favor either Linda. It’s from the
heart.
Thank
you, Jeff. (Thank you, Dale Carnegie) I'll be on the lookout for it. But maybe you write your reviews under an assumed name as I do. It is
often said that men should read romance novels if they want to know how to have
a successful relationship with women. How do you feel about this advice?
Oh wow,
very good advice. Common sense, right? If you’re going fishing, you need to
fish with something the fish likes. What do women love? Storybook romance. But
it’s got to be more than an act. It’s got to be sincere. And you know what? You
don’t even have to do it well. You can flounder as long as you’re putting your
heart out there. I can think of one romantic failure that would have been
different I think. It was sort of a “love at first sight” for me. She made my
heart pound so hard I could barely speak. What happened? Nothing. I “kept my
cool”. She never knew how she made me feel. Hey, all you sixteen year-old boys
out there...keeping your cool is stupid. Be real. Risk telling her how you are
feeling and you just might be amazed. I used to say it had to be 100 percent
real. I now think 75 percent real plus 25 percent inspired theatrics is a
better formula. She’s smart enough to know what you’re doing, but she won’t
mind. Be dramatic, she likes it.
I can
tell you don't need to read a romance book. You've got this romance thing
figured out. One last question for you.
If there is a love story in the book you are reading, do you expect a
"happy ever after" ending?
No, I
can’t say I expect it. I grew up listening to the soundtrack of “West Side
Story” which has a romantically tragic ending. Maybe I’m affected emotionally
by tragedy even more sometimes. Les Miserables always makes me cry. (sorry
gentlemen, just look the other way cause this is ugly) It climaxes in so many
themes that feel personal to me that I’m just overwhelmed. Among them are both
the resolved love between Marius and Cosette, right beside the unrequited love
of Eponine. The way the play wraps a half dozen very powerful themes into the
finale is just amazing to me as a student of drama. As I speak of it, it makes
me wonder how Victor Hugo accomplished that same simultaneous climax in the
book. Hmmm…..
Have I
just discovered another book I should read Linda?
I have
one I could recommend, but it's currently out of print. It's been fun chatting
with you today. And I'm sure our readers have appreciated your wit as much as
I have. Readers, please share your own thoughts with Jeff. Just be sure to hit the
"publish" box to have your comments appear on the page.
I
regret to announce this will be my last chat with a reader for awhile. Since
our publisher will be closing soon due to health issues, I will not be doing
monthly posts on this blog. I will,
however, continue to post intermittently and will promote those posts online.
Thank
you for visiting today. You can always find me at the links below:
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